Is Suffering Necessary to Achieve Happiness?

Is Suffering Necessary to Achieve Happiness?

Ask yourself boldly, “Why am I working?” Can you ask the question and answer it with all your courage? We often ask this question: “Why am I working?” This small change in form puts a different meaning before us; because it brings with it resignation, renunciation, uselessness, unhappiness, tiredness, hopelessness and burnout.

Let’s take a closer look at the subject in the light of the views of great thinkers.👇🏼

“Why am I working?” the question is

"Niye çalışıyorum ki?" sorusu

When this happens, our will and hope diminish.

Failures and defeats begin to weaken us; and the person questions his efforts and concludes how “meaningless”, “unnecessary” they actually are.

Is it a good thing to have difficulties?

Zorluk yaşamak iyi bir şey mi?

First of all, let’s start with the approaches of those who do not agree with this idea:

“The luckiest person is the one who has lived his life without any physical or mental pain.”

The above view says that for happiness it is necessary to try to distance oneself from troubles and problems.

Yukarıdaki görüş, mutluluk için sıkıntı ve sorunlardan kendini uzak tutmaya çalışmanın gerekliliğini söyler.

In fact, he advises not to seize the pleasant and beautiful things life has to offer, but to aim to stay away from its countless misfortunes/pains as much as possible.

According to Schopenhauer, the essence of philosophical wisdom lies in Aristotle’s saying: “The prudent man seeks to avoid pain, not pleasure.”

Schopenhauer’e göre felsefi bilgeliğin özü Aristoteles’in şu sözünde yatıyor: “Sağduyulu insan, zevkten değil, acıdan uzak durmaya çalışır.”

Schopenhauer says that the universe that man follows is actually a design, a dream. Therefore, by stating that running after a dream makes us unhappy, he explains the impossibility of full happiness.

“The blurry, deceptive images of happiness in our dreams appear before our eyes as randomly chosen images.”

“Düşlerimizdeki mutluluğun bulanık, aldatıcı imgeleri, rastgele seçilmiş görüntüler halinde belirir gözlerimizin önünde."

‘And we try in vain to seize the real ones.’

“There is only one defect we are born with: We all believe that we are born to be happy…”

“Doğuştan getirdiğimiz tek bir kusur var: Hepimiz mutlu olmak için dünyaya geldiğimize inanıyoruz..."

‘Unless we rectify this flaw… the world will appear to us as a place full of contradictions. Because in every step we take, whether we have done something big or small, we will realize that the world and human life were not designed to allow people to live happy lives.”

But is finding happiness really an illusion?

Peki mutluluğu yakalamak gerçekten bir yanılsama mıdır?

If it really is, we should put aside the pleasant aspects of life and abstain ourselves from suffering, instead of chasing pleasures, instead of “living in a small room with fireproof walls” in Schopenhauer’s words.

Isn’t such an attitude renunciation and surrender itself?

Böylesi bir tutum, vazgeçiş ve teslimiyetin kendisi değil midir?

Isn’t it cowardly and unreal? It is possible to find happiness, and the way to achieve it is not to avoid pain, but to see it as something natural, a stepping stone that we will encounter as we strive for the good.

Let us give examples of a few people who seem to have lived happy lives when we look at history: Montaigne, Stendhal and Goethe.

Tarihe baktığımızda mutlu yaşamlar sürmüş oldukları anlaşılan birkaç kişiden örnek verelim: Montaigne, Stendhal ve Goethe

When we look at these people, it seems that they have many common features. They are all curious, talented people in the arts. Despite their dark side, they can laugh and dance. They are concerned with world affairs. In addition, all of them are fond of sunlight, open and fresh air, sun-specific plants, and the sea.

It is clear from this that they have all embraced all the possibilities life has to offer them.

Buradan anlaşılıyor ki, hepsi de yaşamın onlara sunduğu tüm olasılıklara kucak açmışlar.

They do not have a blind adherence, anger, or grumbling to behavior and lifestyles that are accepted by everyone. They are brave, ambitious, honorable, strong people.

Now let’s examine the relationship between happiness and pain: The things that bring us the most happiness cannot be separated from the great pain.

Şimdi biraz da mutluluk - acı ilişkisini irdeleyelim: Bize en çok mutluluk veren şeyler, büyük acılardan ayrı düşünülemiyor.

Strangely enough, our greatest joys are the things that cause us the most pain.

Nietzsche says: “Study the lives of the most admirable people, the peoples, and ask yourself; Has a tree that has grown into the sky yielded to storms?”

Nietzsche şöyle der: “En hayranlık uyandırıcı insanların, halkların yaşamlarını inceleyin ve kendinize sorun; büyüyüp göğe uzanan bir ağaç fırtınalara boyun eğmiş midir?"

‘Are misfortune and exclusion, and in some cases even hatred, jealousy, stubbornness, harshness, and violence desirable? If these are not lived, no great progress can be made, even no virtue can be formed.”

Nietzsche also speaks of mountains to describe the inevitability of suffering:

Nietzsche, acının kaçınılmazlığını anlatmak için dağlardan da söz eder:

“Efforts are never in vain as yMontaigne says in the Essays: “If we cannot avoid a pain, we must learn to suffer it.”ou climb the mountains of truth: either you rise higher today or you muster strength to rise higher tomorrow.”

Montaigne ise Denemeler’de şunu söyler:  “Eğer bir acıdan kaçınamıyorsak, o acıyı çekmeyi öğrenmeliyiz."

According to Montaigne, in order to practice the art of living, we must know how to benefit from our suffering.

‘If we look at our lives in terms of harmony, we see that sounds are not always harmonious, in this harmonic structure, pleasant tones, hard tones, sharps and flats are heard, some sounds are soft and comforting, while others are disturbing.’

“Good things and bad things are essentially of the same essence; they belong to our life.”

‘How can a musician sing if he only likes some of the sounds? The musician should know how to use all sounds and tones at once, and to combine them. This is how we should look at the good and the bad in our lives.’

If we go back to Nietzsche again; “If only we could become fertile fields, then nothing in our depths would disappear unused.”Yine Nietzsche'ye dönersek; “Keşke verimli tarlalar olabilseydik, o zaman derinliklerimizde hiçbir şey kullanılmadan kaybolup gitmezdi."

At that time, we would embrace every event, every object, every person, and we would consider them the fertilizer of our soil.”

In other words, being efficient is possible by distilling the difficulties encountered on the way to success, adding a spiritual meaning to them and thus turning them into efficiency.

Stendhal argues that; “If you refuse to suffer, if you can’t bear your own pain for even an hour, then you believe in the religion of comfort.”

Stendhal ise şunu savunuyor; “Acı çekmeyi reddediyor, kendi acına bir saat bile katlanamıyorsan, o zaman rahatlık dinine inanıyorsun demektir."

According to Stendhal, human can basically be in some negative emotions and situations; but if he believes that he will benefit from them, he will definitely achieve great success and experience great joy.

“How little you comfort-seekers know about human happiness. Happiness is the sister, or even the twin, of unhappiness.”

"Siz rahatlık düşkünleri, insan mutluluğuyla ilgili ne az şey bilirsiniz. Mutluluk mutsuzluğun kardeşi, hatta ikizidir."

‘These two either grow together or not at all, as in your life; always stays small.”

As a result, we wish that we should not suffer at all if possible; However, it is not possible to reach happiness without pain.

Sonuç olarak isteriz ki, eğer mümkünse hiç acı çekmeyelim; oysa acı olmadan mutluluğa erişmek de pek mümkün değil.

Knowing what people actually need, Nietzsche expresses this situation very strikingly with these words: “I wish the people I love to suffer pain, loneliness and illness, to be pushed around, insulted by others – I wish that they were insecure, without deep contempt for themselves. They do not live without being tortured or crushed by defeats.”

Thus, people will reach the goal by encountering a difficult (not killing, empowering!) problem and solving it.

The thing to note is that in reality every problem is a structure/path in the tool function.

Unutulmaması gereken, gerçekte her problemin araç işlevinde bir yapı / yol olduğudur.

Solving the problem is achieved by first recognizing/understanding it and then penetrating ourselves. You know what they say: “If you’re not part of the solution, you’re part of the problem.”





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